I’m really excited for this month on the MTME blog! August is the month of breaking out of our comfort zones! This actually isn’t the post I expected to write for the start of the month, but I felt like if I was going to go forward, this needed to be said… Because I was wrong.
I believe we all have our own outlooks on life. There is no one way to define the meaning of life and what each of our purposes are on this earth. Yes, I’m getting that deep today! Because I was wrong, and I’m woman enough to admit it! After all, I have to be! This world is ever changing, and it teaches us new things on a daily basis if we’re open to the lesson. I always have been open; I love taking some sort of life lesson out of every situation and all though that may make me a bit of an analytical person, I still appreciate it! The thing about life lessons is that we have to understand what the life lesson is teaching us to be able to take something positive from it and move forward.
For instance, someone you love dies, you can learn from the experience that we have to value the time we have with each other or you can learn to push people away so that you never have to experience the pain of losing someone you love. With the latter, of course, you wouldn’t experience pain, you never opened yourself up to love in the first place! You may know that that’s no way to live your life, it’s steeped in fear and lies; love is the greatest privilege in the world. However, that’s what I took from my brother’s death in 2012. I can’t say that that logic was wrong or right because that’s all I had to give back then. Our past selves did the best they could with what they had so regret and shame is essentially pointless. So moving forward you’re able to grow and change and sometimes give life back the lessons it taught you. Logically I knew that pushing people away would shield me from pain but years later, I learned that it wasn’t the answer.
And so now here I am, all these years later and a lot has changed. Like I said before, we each have a life to lead, a purpose, and our own unique outlooks on the world. Well, this is my outlook on my own life. In 2012, I began a path of self-discovery, I asked myself, what do you want out of your life Zoe? Don’t look to the world for answers, look above and within! And on that path, a lot has happened; I’ve grown, changed, and made my own rules. I went vegan, I made good friends, I lost people I loved, I picked up a hula hoop and I never put it down, I quit a job that was no longer serving me, said yes and sometimes no, experienced disappointment from opportunities that fell through, randomly went to a tattoo shop and almost got a tattoo but realized I wasn’t ready, I almost fell in love, and I fell in love with myself. So many life lessons in each situation, I almost lose track! And from everything, Here’s what I’ve learned…
This blog is about the self-discovery process and it was started on my journey letting go of fear and allowing myself to live the life I wanted to lead. You see, I thought fear was my biggest issue, fear was the thing that stopped me, this external force against me, but I thought wrong! I thought this self-discovery journey was all about pushing past fear but no, it’s so much more. I have learned more about myself these last few years than I have in a lifetime. I have learned that in a lot of ways, I’m actually a fearless person. I realize that I haven’t given myself enough credit, out of habit I’ve seen myself as a victim fighting fear when I had the power all along.
So with this blog, and the Discovery list (the very first post on this blog) I pushed past my fears and encouraged my readers to do the same, and that’s great! But I’ve realized that fear is only the first step in self-discovery, it’s actually a very small issue in the grand scheme of things. It’s merely an obstacle put in your way to keep you stuck. What I’ve taken from fear is that when you intentionally do things that scare you, like I have with the Discovery List, you learn that you can truly do anything you set your mind to, period! After that is the hard part, belief, you have to believe in yourself and love yourself going forward, I was wondering why after achieving this I never thought I could do I still felt the same, and I realized it, I already had the ability to push past the fear, I just have to believe it.
So let me give you a bit of a cheat sheet for life! Learn from each life lesson to love your self more and more, and believe in yourself, if you don’t each life experience will be in vain. Learn that fear is nothing and it is a life necessity to push past it. And learn to make your own rules on YOUR path to self-discovery. Going forward I am excited to explore the comfort zone, but let’s not just do stuff that scares the shit out of us, let’s do things because we have one life to lead and excuse the cliche but we may as well live it to the fullest!
Thank you for reading my random thought! Get your Discovery List and grow with us!
Live a life that’s muzic to your ears!
Love Zoe Joy