Her… She has beautiful tan skin, not a blemish in sight. Perfect golden hair, and a perfect Bikini body. She has beautiful bone structure and pouty lips. She’s the belle of the ball. She is the envy of every girl that crosses her path… Men want her and women want to be her. She has found success because of the way she looks. When you look at her, you start feeling insecure about yourself. You compare yourself to her. You think, “what an amazing life she must lead.” She is perfect! Or is she?
Maybe she’s depressed. Maybe she’s insecure. Maybe she’s not a nice person. Maybe she’s miserable! The warped thing is, maybe she secretly wishes she was you. Maybe she covets your hair, maybe she wants your curvy hips, maybe she wishes she was more free spirited. Maybe she’d trade anything to have your creativity…
And yet, we want to be her! We want her body… We want the attention that she gets… We want her life.
But why? Why should you want to be her? She doesn’t have your sparkling eyes that can light up a room. She doesn’t have your cute, quirky personality, she doesn’t have your sense of humor.
I spent far too long wishing I was someone else, without even realizing it. One day a girl told me that she wished she had my curves, as I secretly wished I had her petite figure. It’s a vicious cycle! Girls looking at each other in jealousy instead of love; comparing themselves instead of being thankful for what they have. If only they knew that they were each created in a perfect image; handcrafted with love and beauty.
This post was not written to offend anyone. “She” actually doesn’t exist. She is the phantom of who society is secretly telling you, you need to look like. She’s in magazine ads and commercials. She is on billboards and TV. She is played by women who have to be digitally altered to look like her. The main point is, we need to stop comparing ourselves to what society deems beautiful. We need to love ourselves enough to love each other. What a waste of life and a waste of precious time to tear ourselves apart.
Learn now that you are one beautiful, perfectly crafted being. Why be her when you can be you?
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