Let me just start off by saying… I’m single. (That’s right boys! Just kidding… Seriously). Yesterday was Valentine’s Day, and it got me thinking about relationships. I remember the first year I moved to California, I spent Valentine’s Day with a girlfriend of mine, we had an awesome time. At the end of the day, I vowed that I would have a valentine by next Valentine’s Day, and she did the same. Long story short, I didn’t… That was 3 years ago now. Honestly, I put it out of my mind… Until yesterday came around. I went into toxic thought land thinking about how I didn’t have a valentine on Valentine’s Day… Again. I remembered the vow I made 3 years ago! I stopped those thoughts quickly when I thought of 10 reasons why being single is a good thing.
That’s right, today I’m talking to my single ladies! But we’re not trying to put a ring on it; we’re going to celebrate being single for the time being! Being single is a blessing in disguise when you think about it. It’s the perfect time to grow, learn, and be the best you can be!
Why being Single is a Good Thing
1. Get to Know Yourself
Have you ever pretended to like something or act differently to get a boy to like you? Yeah, we’ve all done that! Sometimes, we just don’t know how to act, and often, it’s because we haven’t taken time to get to know ourselves! What are your likes? What are your dislikes? What are your hopes and dreams.
2. Define Yourself
“I’m nothing without you…” I hate that! What happens if they were to leave you? Do they just take all of you and leave nothing left? You have to be someone before you enter a relationship. Another person can’t define you! This single time is time for you to grow into a whole person. It’s time for you to define yourself, and for your FYI (what?) you are the dopest!
Related: How to Be the Best You Possible
3. Find Your Worth
I was one of “those” teenage girls, dreaming of a boyfriend, fantasizing about my wedding day. I’d look at all the happy couples and the pretty girls that could land a cute boy. I wanted to look like them, I tried to act like them… I thought my worth was in my ability to get a boyfriend; but I wish I knew then what I know now. Having a boyfriend doesn’t give you worth, you give you worth.
4. Be Secure In Yourself
Sometimes a girl just wants to hear a few reassuring words from their partner: “I love you,” “your beautiful,” “dang girl you got a nice behind” (hey, to each her own)… But when you’re single sometimes you just have to tell yourself these things… “I love you,” “you’re beautiful,” “dang girl you got got nice behind.” I told myself that the other day when I tried on my new jeans. 😉 Compliments and reassuring words are nice, but it’s also nice to be in a place where you’re secure enough in yourself to not need them.
5. Improve Yourself
I decided to dedicate this year to self improvement! On the MTME blog, I’m doing a 12 month self improvement plan, this month is love yourself month! Being single is perfect for self improvement. You can focus on yourself and be the best you can be. It’s a time when you can set a goal and reach it.
Related: How to Improve Your Life Right Now
6. Be a Little Selfish
When you’re in a relationship, you may often find that you have to give and take; but when you’re single you can take, take, take! Take time, take trips, take up the entire bed if you want to. This single lady time is your time! When you’re in a relationship you’ll be able to give of yourself because you took time for yourself!
Related: 10 Things to do to Show Yourself Love
7. No Heartbreak
Tears, sniffles, a pint, no a gallon of ice cream; heartbreak is the worst. Heartbreak is just one of those things we have to go through sometimes… But while being single, you can’t break your own heart, you can build it up to be stronger.
8. No Jealousy
Where, who, you went where, WITH WHO! No one to be paranoid over… What a blessing! I remember, one night I was at a party talking to the boy of my dreams, I’d had a crush on him for months. He had deep brown eyes, and the cutest smile! Apparently I wasn’t the only one who thought so, I wasn’t gone a second before another girl pranced… She was pretty too… When I went back over to keep talking to him, I quickly became the awkward third wheel. I watched them periodically for the rest of the party. Instead of enjoying myself, I went through an interesting thought process; What’s she have that I don’t have? Well, her boobs are bigger… and she’s way prettier than I am, I can’t even compete… After that night, I vowed I’d never do that to myself again. Oh! And to update you on that guy… He was NOT the boy of my dreams… What was I thinking!?
Related: Why Be Her When You Can Be You
9. Find Out What You Want
One day, you want a bad boy, the next, the geeky boy is pretty cute, then the nice boy has your heart, then back to the bad boy! This single time is when you find out what you want. You can figure out what will compliment you. What kind of guy will bring out the best in you. Figure out what it is your looking for.
10. Focus on Your Dreams
This isn’t the 50’s (thank God)! So take advantage! Your one goal in life doesn’t have to be get married and get married now! You can be anything you want to be. Relationships take time and energy; time and energy a single girl can put toward her dreams. Work hard, never give up, and when the time comes, be with a boy that supports your dreams as you support his.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to build up a feminist army; I love, love. But for now, I’ve learned that I’m content to be single. Sometimes the idea of being in a relationship is more tempting than actually being with someone. The beautiful thought of someone loving you, making life worthwhile, and being your hero, yeah tempting. I was a daddyless girl, so at one time, it was all I thought about. But this beautiful time, is perfect to discover self love! Love yourself so you can love others!
Come on single ladies, we are young, heartache to heartache we stand, love is a battlefield! Oh yes I did! So before we go to war for love, lets build ourselves up into the best gals we can be, let’s love ourselves unconditionally, let’s chase after our dreams! And then when Cupid shoots an arrow at that cute little booty of yours, you’ll be more than ready!
Do you think being single is a good thing? What do you like about being single? Comment below!
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You have to love yourself before you can love someone else! The Happy Self Improvement Workbook helps you do just that! Take this time to grow into the best you, you ante with the Happy Self Improvement Workbook!
Previous posts from this month:
Introducing The Happy Self Improvement Workbook
How to Accept Your Flaws – Be Flawsome
Why Be Her When You Can Be You
How to Find Yourself- The Easiest Way
Finding a Positive Self-image – Look in the Mirror
10 Things to Do to Show Yourself Love
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